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The Great Re-Alignment

Posted by on May 14, 2020 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

by Steven Kessler, MFT Nature is teaching us that we need each other. That community and cooperation are ultimately more important than separateness and competition. Here in America, our founding document is the Declaration of Independence. Our national story has always emphasized the importance of independence and personal freedom. And we in America have pushed the notion of independence farther than any society before us. Now Nature is calling us back to balance. It is showing us that we are, in fact, inter-dependent, and that our inter-dependence is more fundamental than our independence....

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The 4 Levels of Communication

Posted by on Apr 19, 2020 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

by Steven Kessler, MFT A friend recently told me about this way of assessing the depth of intimacy in any given communication and I found it very helpful, so I thought I’d pass it on to you. I have fleshed out each of the levels. Many of us are already aware of these levels unconsciously. Whatever social skills training we had was good enough that we just automatically sense what level of intimacy is okay in a given situation and shift into that. However, not all of us were so fortunate, so having an explicit map of these levels of communication can be a big help. 1. Small Talk –...

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Are Parts of You Missing?

Posted by on Oct 15, 2019 in Uncategorized | 1 comment

Do you feel like you’re not enough somehow? Not attractive enough? Not smart enough? Not good enough? Not _______ enough? What do you do about it? Do you try to improve yourself or accomplish something externally to make up for it? Or do you identify with it, say “that’s just who I am,” and feel deficient? Both these solutions are a mistake. Because you misunderstand the problem, you’re applying the wrong solution. It’s not that you’re missing something and need to get it, it’s that you’re disconnected from a deep part of yourself inside, so you...

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A Second Way to Calm Yourself When You’re Anxious

Posted by on May 25, 2019 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Whenever you notice your body getting anxious, here’s another simple self-soothing technique you can use to calm yourself down. I call it The Fingertip Squeeze. All you do is squeeze the tip of each finger while you take in a slow, full breath and then slowly let it out. Using your thumb and forefinger, simply squeeze each finger of the other hand from side to side near the tip. If you feel up and down the fingertip area, you’ll notice that there’s a little dip on each side, about even with the base of the fingernail, and that squeezing there just feels right somehow. Do...

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How to Calm Yourself When You’re Anxious

Posted by on Apr 8, 2019 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Whenever you notice your body getting anxious, here’s a simple self-soothing technique you can use to calm yourself down. I call it the AK 4-Point Rubbing Technique because I first learned it when I was studying Applied Kinesiology back in the 1970’s. To use it, you simply rub 4 points on the front of your body, all at the same time. The first 2 points are at the edges of your sternum (about 2 inches apart) and just under your collarbone. They’re called the collarbone points in EFT and K-27 on an acupuncture chart. To find them, start at the notch in your neck and come down...

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How I Sold 10,000 Books

Posted by on Dec 10, 2018 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Since I self-published The 5 Personality Patterns three years ago, I’ve sold over 10,000 copies. And at full price, I’m happy to say, not at give-away prices. About half of those sales were paperbacks, sold for $16 to $21, while the other half were ebooks, sold for $9.99 and up. I am a first-time author and self-publisher, so this has involved a steep learning curve and a ton of work, but it has also given me a profit of over $60,000. What are the ingredients needed for this success? Here’s the main point:  to decide to buy your book, each potential buyer...

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EFT and “Scientific Proof”

Posted by on Apr 7, 2018 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

The day science begins to study non-physical phenomena, it will make more progress in one decade than in all the previous centuries of its existence.   —   Nikola Tesla   When they first hear about EFT, some people ask whether EFT has been proven effective in scientific studies. It has, and for those who want to read the studies, they can find more than 100 papers published in peer-reviewed professional journals by visiting www.eftuniverse.com/research-studies/eft-research.  Sometimes, however, the person’s need for “scientific proof” arises out of a...

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What Is an Emotion?

Posted by on Mar 10, 2018 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

We’ve all lived with emotions for so long that we take it for granted that we know what they are — but do we? We may think they simply happen in out bodies and are beyond our control. They may seem to be entirely self-generated — just something that arises, unbidden. But are they, really? We may think of emotions as identical to feelings, and indeed, we often use the two words interchangeably. But are feelings and emotions exactly the same? And what is the role of sensations in the arising of feelings? Or of emotions? The best description I’ve seen is this one. An...

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What Do Your Favorite Movies Say About You?

Posted by on Sep 14, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Try this out:   Make a short list of your favorite movies. 3 – 5 is enough. Write them down.   Ask yourself, what do you especially like about each of them? One way to get clearer on that is to ask yourself, “What’s my favorite moment in each movie?” Is there a particular scene I really like? Is there a particular moment in that scene? What is the essence of that moment? What is it about that moment that’s special for me?   List each of those moments/scenes and what you love about it. Ask yourself, is there a pattern here? Do a lot of these...

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Dis-identifying from the Inner Critic

Posted by on Aug 29, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Inside each of us, there is a voice that criticizes us whenever we do something wrong. This voice is called the inner critic, and it is an amalgamation of all the commands we heard as a child to “Be good,” “Tell the truth,” “Stand up straight,” “Don’t hit your brother,” “Don’t draw on the walls,” “Don’t talk with your mouth full,” “Don’t run with scissors,” “Don’t talk back,”etc., etc., etc. Every time Mom, Dad, or whoever had power over us instructed us on what to do or not do, our little brain recorded it. Over time, we built up a library of their voices and mixed them together into one...

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