Many years ago, sitting in a workshop room in Oregon, I listened as the workshop leader told us that human beings have 4 powers: the power to think, to feel, to decide, and to act. I wasn’t so sure about that. I thought, “Isn’t the power to decide just part of the power to think?”But read more

As I've gotten older, I've decided to focus more on Learning through Joy, rather than the usual method, Learning through Suffering.What is that? Well, one answer to the question, “Why is there so much suffering in the world?” is that we need suffering to make us pay attention and learn whatever lessons we came here read more

Everyone wants to feel safe. My 40 years of experience as a therapist has led me to believe that it is the first need for everyone, the need that comes before other needs. Some people say that we need to feel safe and loved – that our need to feel loved is equal. That may read more

This is an old teaching, but it's fundamental to understanding people, so I wanted to make sure you're aware of it.The basic idea is simple: we have three centers of intelligence in our bodies, not just one. These three centers are the Head, the Heart, and the Belly. And each one has its own kind read more

Imagine you're eating an apple. You feel the crunch against your teeth. You taste the juiciness, the sweetness and the tartness, the texture as you chew. Then you swallow and it goes down into your stomach. Your body starts to break it down. All those digestive acids start to separate it into the parts you read more