In my 40 years as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I have noticed that nearly all the couples who seek my help share one common trait: they do not have a way to negotiate differences and make shared decisions. In

Here’s one way to think about our social evolution and how we organize ourselves socially. You’re probably familiar with the idea that we have three centers of intelligence in our bodies, not just one. These three centers are the Head, the Heart, and

There is a whole field of study called Adult Development, which specializes in studying the psycho-social development of adults. It's less well known than the field of Child Development, but it seems much more useful for understanding what is going

Many years ago, sitting in a workshop room in Oregon, I listened as the workshop leader told us that human beings have 4 powers: the power to think, to feel, to decide, and to act. I wasn’t so sure about

As I've gotten older, I've decided to focus more on Learning through Joy, rather than the usual method, Learning through Suffering. What is that? Well, one answer to the question, “Why is there so much suffering in the world?” is

Everyone wants to feel safe. My 40 years of experience as a therapist has led me to believe that it is the first need for everyone, the need that comes before other needs. Some people say that we need to

This is an old teaching, but it's fundamental to understanding people, so I wanted to make sure you're aware of it. The basic idea is simple: we have three centers of intelligence in our bodies, not just one. These three

Imagine you're eating an apple. You feel the crunch against your teeth. You taste the juiciness, the sweetness and the tartness, the texture as you chew. Then you swallow and it goes down into your stomach. Your body starts to